By Cindy Starr
What do we believe?
Children, from the moment of conception, are a blessing from God and parents hear the primary responsibility of training them in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.
Why do we believe this?
Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.
Why does it matter?
The book of Proverbs is a collection of wise maxims, not conditional promises. It is important to recognize that they are not written as a template for formulaic living: “if you do this, then this will happen.” This is why the response of Job’s friends was wrong. They thought that faithful obedience obligated God to respond in blessing; and they were wrong. Parenting does not work like a recipe. Parenting is much more like a walk of blind faith, an exercise in earnest obedience, and a courageous warfare with God’s glory the end in mind.
As parents, we train diligently as we live in the light of grace. We rely on God alone. We treasure His Word alone. We meditate and rest in His character alone and we believe that the work of salvation and sanctification is God’s work to do. Does He use us? Yes, all the time. Does He want us to be self-reliant? No, never. He is most visible against all odds. The law can never save. Formulas can never save. Only the sheer grace of God can save.
As parents, we train and we trust. We hold fast to Philippians 1:6; that God will complete what He has begun. We run with endurance and we hope and rest in His faithfulness. The end is God’s – our role is to train and re-train and to tell and re-tell the truths to each generation, that they should put their confidence in God and not forget His works or His commandments (Psalm 78). It is in this that God is glorified.